For the chapters between the pages 123-174 the action seemed to slow down and slip into the women's everyday routines. But lets just go over some of the things that occurred...
In ICEBREAKERS...Savannah and Robin meetup at a yoga class. One part had me rolling...They were having usual girl talk and Savannah mentioned Michael (That pudgy guy robin used to mess around with in the movie) Remembering that part in the movie...I could not stop laughing. But other than that Robin began to talk about her experiences with online dating and it seems like shes enjoying it. One last thing I did want to point out was this Savannah says "It seems like the only thing that's pretty much guaranteed when you get married these days is getting divorced."
How do you feel about marriage these days? Has it changed? In what ways?
In You Need to Watch Dr. Phil.... Savannah has a conversation over the phone with her mother. Now if you remember from the movie her mother is very opinionated. In this chapter it is clear that Savannah misses Issac and her mother is not understanding why she is leaving a good man and even states "it ain't no fun being old and lonely."
How do you feel about mothers and their opinions on your relationship. The saying goes "Mama knows best." But is that always the case? Especially when they may not know the entire story? Are you willing to stay in a unhappy relationship because you don't want to grow old and lonely?
*and a sidenote...a coworker offers their home in Paris to Savannah, but she turns down the offer. I think she should go...it will get her mind off of everything that is going on with her in her life and she may meet a hot Parisian man to raise her spirits again hmmmm
In Four-Way...All four of the girls are talking on the phone, catching up with one another. They are trying to decide on what they should do together since they haven't spent time together as a group in a while. In this chapter, Gloria seems a little bit more involved although she kind of fell asleep on the phone lol The chapter ends with Bernie lying to the girls about how she will stop taking Xanax. She definitely needs another stress reliever before things get real critical.
How do you handle your stress? What suggestions or advice would you offer to Bernie to get her through these tough times?
Finally, In Soap Opera Digest...Little miss 14 year old Taylor decides she is so grown that she could drive her father's car to Bernie's house. While there she expresses that she is not happy living with her dad John because he is never home and now doesn't have a mother around. She rather live with Bernie and begs her to take her in. Bernie is unsure about this is at the moment and explains to her that it isn't as easy as she makes it seem. At the conclusion of this chapter we learn that Bernie is in some major financial issues and have outstanding balances on all of her credit cards and can not receive any loans and then she pops a pill!
Do you think its best that Taylor goes to live with her? What are the pros and cons of that potential situation? What is she going to do about her money situation?
Hoping it picks back up in these next chapters in our Week two of GETTING TO HAPPY :)
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A common theme in this book is the women's different viewpoints on marriage. From their experiences some are skeptical while others are longing to be have that marital moment (Robin). Marriage would be cool, I don't forsee it as a problem in my future. What I believe makes people reconsider or leary is the things that come along with marriage...the joining of accounts, more responsibility, raising a family, managing finances...and when these things start to collide love gets overshadowed and lost. My concern about marriage is making sure that I am really in love! Marriages faulter to more divorce nowadays because some people are just after the title, the money, and overlook being in love. Just look at relationships. You and I know people who are in relationships just to be in them..so they feel like they are secure or not lonely...so that they are like everyone else..these same relationships turn into marriages that are missing a key ingredient.
ReplyDeleteSince we're on the subject of marriage..would you make your significant other sign a pre-nup? More and more people are doing this...Savannah's mom is noted saying, "it's cheaper to keep her".
Heck no. I am not staying in a relationship just to say I have somebody and to avoid loneliness...You have to listen to you mothers opinion every once in a while but you don't have to agree and act on those said suggestions..
I use to work out to releive stress now I just have to go out and get away from my surroundings...Bernie needs to confide in her friends more and look to them for support, heck she could even talk to John.
Poor little Taylor needs to stay with John because Bernie can't handle her right now although it may help her get herself together. Besides for once John needs to step away from work and be accountable for his family life.
In the case of Savannah, if my boss wanted to set me up on a blind date and offered me a trip to Paris, I'd take them both! Lol!
And in that FOUR WAY Chapter, the progressive dinner party actually sounded fun!
I think a lot of people dont even think about those important things that is attached to the word marriage and those are the things that affects the marriage such as like you said the joining of accounts, responsibilities etc. I remember when i took a sociology course Families in Societies we talked about this topic and mentioned the idea of requiring all couples to attend pre-marital counseling...i am so PRO this! I think its necessary. I mean really? Why is it soooo easy to jump the broom but takes so much time and money to divorce?
ReplyDeleteI think couples can begin to think about the things they forget and make decisions on things before marriage...I think that it would have such a positive affect on marriages nowadays
Yea i think JOhn do need to step up to the plate and be a real father to his child and bernie is going through way too much to be handling a 14 year old especially when both of her kids are finally out of the house but i think the pro would be that there would be someone there to talk to her, spend time with her, and watch her because her and these pills are getting out of hand
You know i totally meant to mention the progressive dinner and i forgot but it does sound like fun...I would definitely do it!