Thursday, September 19, 2013

40 Days of Purpose 10-12

(Purpose Driven Life)



Day 10: The Heart of Worship

Key Point: The heart of worship is surrender
*We have to offer ourselves as a living sacrifice to the Lord.

In order for us to surrender wholeheartedly to God we have to overcome three barriers:

  1. Fear
  2. Pride
  3. Confusion 
Something that was in this chapter that I have on a wall in my room was the following quote: "I am self-sufficient in Christ's sufficiency." Meaning, instead of trying to manipulate others or push my own agenda I follow God's lead. 

Question to Consider: What area of my life am I holding back God from? 
  • If there are any areas I am not surrendering to God I ask that he show them to me so that I can push aside  any fear, pride, or confusion to relinquish it and be sufficient in that area of my life through him.


Day 11: Becoming Best Friends With God

Key Point: God wants to be your best friend

This chapter discusses why God wants to be our best friend and explains two secrets of building friendship with him. 

  1. Having constant conversation with God
    • pray more short prayers throughout your day 
  2. Continual meditation 
    • think about God's word throughout your day
    • exchange worrying for meditating on your daily affairs 
Question to Consider: What can I do to remind myself to think about God and talk to him more often throughout the day?
  • To remind myself to think about God and talk to him more I when I am bored, confused, frustrated, anxious, etc. I will hum this song that says "I want Jesus to walk with me". That will remind and assure me that through everything I do that God is with me. 

Day 12: Developing Your Friendship with God

Key Point: You are as close to God as you choose to be. 

Like with any other friendship you choose to do things with one another and talk to one another. The more you get to know that person the better your relationship is and the closer you are. The same is with God; when we choose to be honest with God about our feelings, faults, and hurts we grow closer to him as our friend. When we choose to obey God in faith and start to value what is important to Him we grow closer. Among all we must desire to be friends with God if we want to have a friendship with him. 

Question to Consider: What practical choices will I make today in order to grow closer to God?
  • In talking/praying with God I will be more honest. Sometimes I hold back my thoughts but if I let go and freely admit my faults and feelings not only will I feel relief but I will start to grow closer to God. 

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

PDL-Day 9

(Purpose Driven Life)

Day 9

What Makes God Smile?

Key Point: God smiles when I trust him
*In Day 9 we learn how to please God and how to make him smile. We should keep these 5 things in mind.
    1. God smiles when we love him supremely - by this meaning building a relationship with God
    2. God smiles when we trust him completely- Never question God or his plans, trusting him completely means having faith that he knows what is best for your life, you cant please God without faith
    3.  God smiles when we obey him wholeheartedly- We tend to partially obey God's rules and visions, we need to obey him wholeheartedly because it proves that we really love him
    4. God Smiles when we praise and thank him continually- Live with a heart of praise and thanksgiving, by doing so we enjoy what God has done for us and express that enjoyment to God
    5. God smiles when we use our abilities- God is not only pleased when you do spiritual activities but everything that you do, do not hide your abilities because he enjoys watching you utilize those exact same abilities that he has given you
If we keep these key points in mind, then we will continuously please God and make him smile.
 
Question to Consider: Since God knows what is best, in what areas of my life do I need to trust him most?
  • I believe I need to trust him the most with my future. The future is unknown, and will always be unknown, so I need to trust in him to know that what he has planned is what is best for me. It may not be exactly what I want or think I need, but I know everything is for him not for me and I need to trust in what hes doing COMPLETELY.

Monday, September 16, 2013

Family Business 2

FAMILY BUSINESS 2 HAS BEGUN!

Now, we left off on family business 1 with every one in the Duncan family surviving from a big shoot out. London had cheated on Harris with a Dash and both her and Paris were pregnant. LC and Chippy never retired and the family was getting back to business at the close of the book.

The second book opens with LC and just like the last book a meeting with the family. We quickly learn that Orlando has been stirring up some things in the lab a new drug, called HEAT and everyone is for it except for mama Chippy. A lot of money can be made from this new drug, but so far Chippy is not having it, she cares way too much about her children. 

We get a peak into Sasha's life. And don't ask me who Sasha is because I have no idea. I do know she a gangsta. That's all I'm saying.

London had her baby and is indeed Harris' baby which was a huge relief for the entire family. Paris goes into labor the same exact time, so we're waiting for the arrival of her child, but no one still does not know who her baby daddy is. Now thats crazy!`

Finally, Orlando finally talks with Ruby and we learn that she is marrying Vinnie and has named Orlando's baby after her new fiance. That had to cut Orlando deep!

So once again, Carl Weber has started this book with a whole lot of action. 
Let's read chapters 7-11 this week.

Discussion Questions: 
What do you think of HEAT?
Which side were you on when it came to HEAT, LC or Chippy?
Who do you really think Paris' baby daddy is?

Sunday, September 15, 2013

40 Days of Purpose 7 & 8

(Purpose Driven Life)


Day 7

The Reason for Everything 

Key Point: It's all about him [God]. 
* I know that the main point highlighted in the text is mentioned above but I believe to give better clarity it should be: the ultimate goal while we're on the universe is to show the glory of God and give him glory as well. That was this chapters focus. Understanding why we should give God the glory and how we can do it. We are to give God the praise and thanks because everything we have and are is because of him. The author explains that, "refusing to do so is prideful and rebellious."

This is interesting. Lately I have been focusing on being grateful for the things and people in my life because I have encountered so many in recent months that are bearing the burdens of situations that I can only imagine. Knowing that it's all about him I can go forth with my gratitude journal and continue to give God glory for his works. 

How We Can Give Glory to God
  • Through worshiping God
  • By loving others like God loves 
  • By becoming more Christ-like
    • adapting/changing our character like His
  • Through serving others with our gifts
  • By telling others about his love/spreading the "Good News"

Question to Consider: Where in my daily routine can I become more aware of God's glory?
  • On my way to work! I'm blessed to have a job, transportation to get there, an able body to work in the environment I work. I'm blessed for this and I should praise God and worship him more for these blessings. 
Prayer of Purpose: God, thank you for creating and loving me. I want to fulfill the purposes you created me for. Lord, I want to know and trust you more. I want my life to bring you glory and reflect a positive lifestyle and a legacy my family will be proud to inherit when I'm gone. Stretch me and help me to grow like Jesus did. In the weeks ahead, help me to understand your mission and vision for my life. 

~Amen!



Day 8

Planned for God's Pleasure

Key Point: I was planned for God's Pleasure. 
*We were put here on earth for God's pleasure and to advance his kingdom. We bring him pleasure through worship and obeying his word. Today's lesson extends yesterdays discussion of worship. Through worshiping God we bring him pleasure. 

  • Worship is more than music 
    • listening to music and singing it is just part of what we can do to give God glory/praise
  • Worship is not for our benefit
    • Our goal is to bring pleasure to God and that alone should be gratifying for us
  • Worship is not a part of your life; it is your life
    • Each day I will practice to worship more and in all I do

Question to Consider: What common task could I start doing as if it were directly for Jesus?
  • Hmm....The common task I will start doing directly for Jesus as a form of worship is running/walking. Through using my mobility I am able to thank God and let that have a positive reflection on the temporary body in which he's given me. 


Saturday, September 14, 2013

40 Days Purpose - Day 5 & Day 6

(Purpose Driven Life)

Day 5
Seeing Life From God's View
In this chapter we discover that the way you see your life shapes your life.

Key Point: Life is a test and a trust.
*We often see life as a circus, a minefield, a roller coaster, a puzzle, a symphony. a journey, a dance, and a carousel. I know that I have described life as a roller coaster, a puzzle, and a journey many times. But in actuality, life is a test and life is trust!

In what ways? you may ask.

Life on earth is a Test.

Throughout our lives "God tests our character, faith, obedience, love, integrity, and loyalty.He watches our responses to people, problems, success, conflict, illness, disappointment, and even the weather." Now thinking about it, I can pinpoint all the tests that I went through. One big, recent one for me was going to college as a photography major in Michigan for 4 years. That was a huge test for me, and I could go on and on and on about the details of it, but in the end I believe I passed and not just because I graduated. 

What stood out to me the most in this section is that, "The good news is that God wants you to pass the tests of life, so he never allows the tets you face to be greater than the grace he gives you to handle them." It just made me think that no matter how hard it gets or how difficult life seems God did not put us on this earth to fail. He wants us to succeed!

Life on earth is a Trust

"The first job God gave humans was to manage and take care of God's "stuff" on earth. This role has never been rescinded. It is a part of our purpose today."

So what exactly is he saying?

Well, he is saying that at the end of your life you will be evaluated by GOD. You will be awarded according to how well you lived your life, how well you handled what God entrusted to you.

Was he able to trust you with the responsibilities that he has given you? Did you do your chores? Did you do your duties? Can he trust you? If you pass these tests of trust you will be rewarded with eternal riches. He will give you 3 things: Affirmation, Promotion, and Celebration

Questions to consider:
1.   What has happened to me recently that I now realize was a test from God? What are the greatest matters God has entrusted to me?
o    Like I said within the past few years, I have had quite a few tests, but the most recent one is the transition of leaving my home of 10 years to live with a couple of my family members. I believe this is a test for me because I also have made some connections with this book and Joel Osteen's book, Every Day is a Friday." In that book, he explains "Bloom where you are planted." My current situation is a test. I need to now realize that although I am not exactly where I want to be, I need to bloom where I am planted. Accept my situation, acknowledge and appreciate the blessing, and continue to grow regardless of what field I am planted in and not see it as a setback but a platform to propel forward. And I believe God trusts me to protect my family and my friends.

Day 6

Life is a Temporary Assignment
This chapter is rather simple. It references a few ideas from Day 4, which was about eternity. 
"To make the best use of your life, you must never forget two truths: First, compared with eternity, life is extremely brief. Second, earth is only a temporary residence. You won't be here long, so don't get too attached." 

Key Point
This world is not my home.

Do not for one second become attached to material things because they are temporary. "It is a fatal mistake to assume that God's goal for your life is material prosperity or popular success, as the world defines it." 

One thing that really stuck out to me in this chapter was that, "...the pursuit of happiness is not what life is about." I honestly thought it was, but here life is REALLY about not necessarily happiness but passing your tests, making sure that God can indeed trust you and realizing that our lives are just temporary assignments. We are in preparation for something way bigger than what we think.

Questions to Consider

How should the fact that life on earth is just a temporary assignment change the way I am living right now?
·        It changes my thought process. I mean I never been the type of person that wants to be rich and famous but would like to live comfortably. It would change the way that I spend my money and my time for things that are more important, making me focus on giving and receiving love. Maybe even helping overs find their purpose in life. There are endless possibilities and opportunities for my temporary assignment.


Thursday, September 12, 2013

40 Days Purpose-Day 4

(Purpose Driven Life)

Made to Last Forever

We never consider that death is the beginning rather not our ending. In this chapter as morbid as it sounds we discuss death but in a new light. 

Key Point: There is more to life  than just here and now. 
*Many of us are caught up in the now. We want things to happen for us instantly and don't take time to smell the roses like old people say. Instead of focusing so much on the present, we should use our days in the "now" preparing for our inevitable future. I totally understand this point and what this chapter was presenting.

Like change death is inevitable but if we spend time with God by forming a relationship with Him through Jesus we can find peace that our life on earth may be ending but our eternal life with God in our new house is just beginning. The author even suggest calling your death date your eternal birthday. That was interesting to me because as growing up in a Christian household and being involved in youth ministry at our church, we celebrated the day we were accepted Christ as our Lord and Savior. That day for us is a "birthday" of it's own and we have cake and ice cream and sorts for our "Reborn Day"! I guess what the author is saying here is like when you go to a funeral oftentimes people say "celebrating the life of the deceased" on earht but you are also celebrating their eternal arrival with God.

Also discussed was the point that once you comprehend that there is more to life than the here and now you start to live differently. I can attest to this. Transitioning back home from college I realized I'd lost part of myself when I was away at school. The spiritual side of me, I kind of shut out. Once I began focusing more on my faith, my desire to hangout with certain people changed, my weekend activities changed, and I found myself getting back to who I am. This happened because many of the things we do are trivial and unworthy of our attention but we only find it out when we come to understand life is about much more than here and now.

Questions to consider:
  1. Since I was made t o last forever, what is one thing I should stop doing and one thing I should start doing?
    •  I should be more kind with my words and take more chances and enjoy life on earth as long as I am not compromising my life eternal future. I should stop isolating myself from people who care about me and learn to cope with our differences because our lives have an inevitable ending. 
This chapter reminds me of a song, that says, "It's not over, it's not finished, it's not ending it's only the beginning....Enjoy and continue this journey of purpose discovery!


 

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

40 Days of Purpose -Day 3

(Purpose Driven Life)

Day 3

WHAT DRIVES YOUR LIFE?

Today we have learned of just a few of the hundreds of circumstances, values, and emotions that can drive your life: Guilt, Resentment/Anger, Fear, Materialism, Need for approval. We have also learned the benefits of Purpose-Driven Living: Knowing the meaning of your life, simplifies your life, focuses your life, motivates your life, preparing for eternity.

Key Point: Living on purpose is the path to peace.
*After thinking about this, I realized I had a lot more thinking and evaluating than I had thought. I thought I finally found my purpose in life somewhat, but the connection I had with the Fear, and Materialism really hit me. I am just getting over Resentment/anger and needing the approval from others, so I am far from knowing my actual purpose of my life, but now that I have been exposed to the true benefits of a purpose driven life I can better contemplate the true purpose of my life. That was definitely an eye opener for me. For the past year, I have felt this emptiness inside of me, and never knew what exactly it was until now, which is the fact of not knowing my true purpose quite yet. Once this is answered, I know this emptiness inside of me will be filled.

Questions to Consider:

What would my family and friends say is the driving force of my life?
My family and friends would most likely say that the driving force of my life is the need to be the perfect one, the good one, the successful one, no matter what I am doing and living up to those expectations that I have built for myself since I was a little kid being that straight A student, that never got into any trouble. That's the picture I have painted for myself and the way the majority of my family sees me. Only a select few truly know me inside and out-very few!

What do I want it to be?
Thinking about this, I believe I want my driving force of my life to be art and love. No matter what route I go, the detours I am forced to take, my mind goes back to these two things. I love Love and I love art-all forms, and I want that to be the main driving force of my life.

Monday, September 9, 2013

40 Days of Purpose

(Purpose Driven Life)

Today we will discuss both Day 1 and 2 of our journey of purpose discovery!


Day 1

Key Point: It's not about me!
* This is a big to consider. I agree though, that once you realize the world is full of more people than yourself and that everything does not deal with you, you can start to seek your purpose. Things become clearer in life. At least it has for me.

Through this chapter underlyingly we discover 5 Things God Wants Us To Do:

  1. He wants us to center our lives around Him
  2. He wants us to connect with other believers
  3. He wants us to cultivate (grow) spiritual maturity
  4. He wants us to give something back 
  5. He wants us to communicate His love
This week I am taking the steps to do all of the five. One of my first action steps is to pray for five people I know and their walk with Christ. How are you taking action to center, connect, cultivate, give and communicate this week?

Questions to Consider:
  1. In spite of all advertising around you how can you remind yourself that life is really about living for God, not self ambitions?
    • This is a deep question. I can remind myself that life is really about living for God despite advertising by staying rooted in my Word, watching wholesome tv/movies, and feeding my spirit more positive things. 
  2. If God were to ask you why he should extend your life 15 years like he did for King Hezekiah (Isiah 38:1-5), what would be your reasons? Would you use those years to center your life on God?
    • Very thought provoking...I'm not certain what I would say or how I'd plead my case. I am certain that if God granted this to me I would center my life around Him to advance his kingdom. I am striving to do this now. 

Let me know your thoughts about Day 1....


Day 2

Key Point: I am not an accident. 
* It is disheartening to know that people believe that they were accidents. I mean even if that was the case I don't think I would be down on myself because of it. Don't get me wrong, there have been days where I have questioned my existence but not because I believed I was an accident. 

Today's lesson to reach our purpose focuses on understanding why we are alive, our significance in life and that we can discover our purposes in life through getting to know God. Self-discovery through Christ will point to our purpose. I love it! 

Question to Consider: 
  •  In knowing that God uniquely created you, what areas of your personality, background, and physical appearance are you struggling to accept?
    • Honestly, I am struggling to accept a lot. A lot of times we won't accept things about us because we don't want to be perceived by others that way. I have accepted the fact that I grew up with a single mother and absentee father (my background).  I have embraced my love of sports, social issues, and love of movies and argumentative nature (my personality). Looking like my father is something that I struggled with but in my young adulthood I have learned to accept it (my appearance). Acceptance of self has to be taken in strides. I'm making some progress. 
What stuck out to you on Day 2?


Keep pressing forward on your discovery of purpose! 

Fall Book Club


Hello All! We took a brief hiatus but we are back full force and we're doing it with our book club and short stories.

The Hidden short story was just getting good. Look for the completion of it this September, each Saturday!

This fall we will be reading both A Purpose Driven Life by Rev. Rick Warren. As well as the sequel to Family Business by Carl Weber. We're in for a treat with both. Be on the look out for a reading schedule later this week.
The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?
We begin with the first two days of A Purpose Driven Life Today!

As for the Family Business 2, this week we will cover the prologue through chapter 6.

Let the reading and discussion commence!

Friday, July 19, 2013

Hidden Pt. 2

Standing in the driveway, I peered upward into the bathroom window where I could see Venice still primping and checking herself out in the mirror. She was my wife, I loved her dearly, but she is the vainest person I have encountered. I screamed towards the window, “Babe come on!!! We are going to lose our reservation.”  Venice looked out the window, cut her eyes, and continued on with her love affair in the mirror.

All I could do is shake my head. Venice knows I have problem with people who aren’t punctual. I like order and schedules; and for things to go according to my liking. Don’t get me wrong I love a woman who takes pride in her physical appearance, my wife in particular. I support Venice’s grooming regiments not just financially but whole heartedly. Come to think of it, I hoped she’d visited the spa for her waxing because tonight was special.

Venice is the type of woman whose self-esteem you can’t shatter. She enjoys the finer things in life not just because I can provide her with it but because she has an acquired taste for upscale-material possessions. When we go out Venice doesn’t just want to look good for herself or as my trophy wife but she does it to be flirtatious and appealing to other men. Along the way she makes other women jealous but she thrives off of that attention. When we first embarked upon our relationship I was bothered by it but I soon began to take joy in it too. Most men want to know how I snagged Venice and the women --- well they want to know when they’ll have an opportunity to be treated like queens.

Since she was taking her sweet time, I just got in the car, anticipating that would make her move along with us making our reservations. Sitting there seemed like forever but my phone rang and made the time go by quickly. This was an important call I just hoped I could finish before my wife walked outside.

“Make it quick you know I’m taking my wife out tonight for our anniversary.”

The voice on the other end made a snide comment.

“Hey, what have I told you about disrespecting my wife? You know I don’t stand for that foolishness. Tell me what I need to know and do it expeditiously.”

The person I was engaged in conversation with gave me all facts no bullshit, just the way I like it.

“And you’re positive the package will be here when I return home tonight?”

“Yes sir,” the anonymous voice responded.

“Good, well I have to go she’s coming,” I said as I saw the door crack open. I put my cell away because when it came to business there were somethings I didn't let Venice know. Plus when I'm with her I keep my phone turned off. Her rules, she likes her man all to herself. 

Look I am a business man with many investments. I recently acquired ownership of a new software company out in Culver City and I am the CEO of my family’s construction company. When I am not seeking new investments, I am giving back to those in need through the various charities my wife sits on boards for. That’s just my spare time when I’m not hob knobbing with the folks down at city council. Lawndale is sacred gem in California. Most people just believe its Hispanic territory near the beach; not I. I have big plans for this place.

When Venice got in the car I didn’t say a word or even look at her. She probably thought I was mad because we were going to be late. I was a tad bit upset but my mind was really on this new company and the phone call I had just received. She should be used to my silent stints by now. We have been together for four years and married for three, although we’ve known one another for eight. Guess Venice was use to me giving her the cold shoulder---as I backed out the driveway she kissed me on the cheek. “My wife, my wife, my wife,” I thought to myself as I tried not to let her see me smile.

Just as I merged on the expressway I realized I hadn’t talked with my children.

“Did you call the kids,” I asked Venice?

In a panic she rambled through her purse to retrieve her cellphone, “Aww shoot! No, I’m about to call them now.”

I mumbled something under my breath. I knew she heard me. She countered getting ready to bring all that feistiness and attitude she has that turns me on so I quickly turned her down some by stating, “Nothing, I said I just said I love you.” She went for it, reciprocated the ‘I love you,’ and I threw her a wink and a smile back.

The kids were staying with my mother for the evening but I know how my mom rolls. Sometimes for the good and other times she has tricks up her sleeve. I’m not saying my mom would ever harm my fraternal twins Jayden and Jayda, it’s just that I know my mom wants more out of me. As much as Venice thinks my mom adores her she can’t stand her because in her eyes she stole away her ‘baby boy’. Before Venice my mom was getting the special treatment. Plus I love my children and am very protective of them because they’re all I have to continue my legacy if anything was to happen to me. Before the cartel took my dad out he told me, “Leo, you have to carry on the family name when I’m gone. You do it responsibly and you make sure that you settle down and have children.  That’s the only way we can keep what’s ours as ours.” Ever since then that’s been my motivation to work hard and protect my babies.

My mom never answered so Venice left a message. I keep trying to tell that woman that my mother goes to bed way before eight o’clock. She doesn’t listen. I don’t like it when my kids are away from me and I don’t get to tell them goodnight. As a father I want to ensure that my children’s lasting memory of me is more affectionate than what father left me. My pops left me responsibility; I want my kids to know that I loved them, my wife too.

Forty-five minutes later we arrived at the Wilshire Restaurant in Santa Monica, California. This was the same place I proposed to Venice four years ago. She loved it here, guess it was due to the atmosphere. I like it too. The food and the ambience were perfect, especially when you’re with that special someone.
As we finished up dinner I decided to propose a toast to my baby. Venice liked that romantic shit and I made sure I drowned her in it. Tears welled up in her eyes and began to flow over. I had to cut this with laughter quickly. She always said my sense of humor was one of the things that really made her say yes when I asked her to marry me. The way Venice was looking at me as we sat there in the restaurant gave clue that tonight it was going down when we got home. I paid the bill and put the pedal to the metal on the road.

Before I let Venice get out of the car as we sat in front of our four bedroom home in Lawndale, I grabbed her hand. I wanted to have a little fun with her. You know, start the four play from the driveway. That and I could see the black truck parked two doors down signaling that ‘this dummy’ hadn’t finishing leaving the package. So I came up with this joke that there was a bug on Venice’s neck. She started panicking and freaking out.  Then I grabbed her, held her tightly, and leaned in real close over on the passenger side of the vehicle. I sniffed her neck. She smelled damn good, “…Damn that smells good,” I told her.

She could sense what I was trying to do and spoke, pushing me away, “Boy get off of me. I thought there was really something on me.”

Venice tried to exit the car again but I wouldn’t let her. I was chivalrous and I needed to see if anyone was watching us. As I ran over to her side of the car, I heard the truck start up and leave. Cool I thought in my head. I opened her door and she got out. I was just about to make my next move then Venice looked over my shoulder and asked, “Babe, did you leave the light on in the kids’ room?”

I couldn’t have left any lights on in that house. We usually only leave the kitchen light on to give us a little light for when we walk back in. Besides Venice was the last one out and the kids hadn’t been home all day. ‘The dummy’ was just supposed to leave the package on the kids’ playscape for me. That was it. No way would they break into my house and for what reason. Venice kept saying the light was on and then it went off. I saw it do it too and got a little suspicious.

My wife is scary and I just told you how easily it is to get her into a panic. Venice began freaking out again saying someone was in the house. This was too much but I had to protect my wife. I tried to calm her down some. My initial thought was to leave her at the car and go around back and check it out. That was too risky. No telling what we were about to encounter and I didn’t want the chance of someone harming my wife to occur. 

So I told her, “No, Niecey.  Just head to Joe and Martena’s and I’m going to check around the back. Okay. Trust me. Just go.”


Venice never questions my authority or love for her when I tell her to ‘trust me’.  I waited until I could see her heading over to the neighbors and then shuffled my way around the house.  I’m always ready for action. The cartel got my dad so I stay equipped. I pulled my piece and looked around swiftly but didn’t see anything. I headed over towards the swing set and stood by the slide looking checking for the package when I was caught off guard. Before I could ask what the person was doing at my home they’d fire two shots my way. 



Let us know how you like Hidden so far. What do you think of Venice and Leo?

Activist Athlete

(Truth Is...)


Truth Is the media and society needs to stop scrutinizing athletes and holding them to a higher standard. Athletes whether they are in college or playing at the professional level are exactly what they are titled; athletes. Merriam-Webster dictionary defines an athlete as: a person who is trained or skilled in exercises, sports, or games requiring physical strength, stamina, and agility. Nowhere in that definition does it say that an athlete has to be a role model or stay silent on issues that matter to them or be perfect. Their job is to entertain using their physical strength and trained agility for sports.

After the verdict in the trial of George Zimmerman, many athletes took to social media expressing their grief, disbelief, or divulged comments that were better left unsaid (i.e. Lolo Jones). Sports analyst along with journalist had a field day with this and brought it to our attention. For some athletes they even had to apologize publicly for speaking the way felt. Our opinions are our opinions and no one can change that. In the sense of saying something that can be harmful not only to one's career but to their affiliate company athletes as well as others must learn that opinions should be kept to themselves. I believe this is why we have yet to see the return of the activist athlete.

When I say activist athlete I am talking about people like Muhammad Ali and Billie Jean King who spoke up about injustices. They utilized their platform athletes for good by advocating for issues that affected many disenfranchised groups. One day we will see the return of the activist athlete. Many got their hopes up when Lebron James along with the championship winning Miami Heat all band together in support of Trayvon Martin's family sixteen months ago. The support of the Heat players in which this initiative was led by Lebron went viral on social networks and again journalist had a field day. They too thought the activist athlete had returned. It has been almost a week since the verdict and Lebron James, full supporter of "Justice for Trayvon," has yet to say anything. Maybe it is because he's stunned? Or it's because he is afraid of saying the wrong thing? As much as I don't agree with the scrutiny the media puts on athletes in these kind of situations, I have to agree that [we] need him to speak out. You can't be vocal one minute and silent the next. It's either all or nothing Lebron, just like when you're balling on the court.

Lebron, my hope is that you haven't forgotten Trayvon Martin and that you weren't just toiling with our hearts. Never do you want the public to think you were using your status to gain more attention (i.e. Dwight Howard) but until you speak out, we'll never know. This is a good lesson for us all though. As Charles Barkley has spoken out countless times, "athletes should not be role models."  He suggest that if a role model is what kids look to athletes for, then parents need to make their children more aware that they are the role models in their households. Touche Charles! But what do you tell little Junior in Memphis about why his favorite athlete makes a  stand for a cause and never says anything else about it?

No this was not written to bash Lebron or any other athlete. This is a call for the activist athlete. If you're going to use your platform for the greater good of the people do it consistently. Don't let the media or our judgement society deter you from doing so. It never stopped the greatest (Ali)!



For those of you wondering, the other players of the Miami Heat have made statements.

Thursday, July 18, 2013

More Than Talent

(Talent Tuesday)


Yes we know our post are behind but at least we're posting! Lol!

Last night ESPN held the annual ESPY's and Robin Roberts received the Arthur Ashe Award for Courage. Roberts is best known for her upstanding sports broadcast journalism and being an anchor on Good Morning America. She has overcome many obstacles starting with breaking the barriers for women, particularly women of color in sports, and then battling life threatening diseases more than once. After being diagnosed with breast cancer, Robin Roberts suffered from other illnesses and her cancer even came back. She is a fighter and shows us all how we should strive to overcome adversity in all that we do!

Robin Roberts is a woman I look up to not because we have similar industry interest and passions but because she never gives up and continues to keep the courage. She is more than just talented.....

Take a look at last night's events:



We can all learn from her! 




Motivational Monday


 

Yes, I know it's Thursday, but this is how we do it lol

This Motivational Monday comes from Iyanla Vanzant's book, Acts of Faith, Daily Meditations for People of Color.

On July 16 and July 17 she talks about reasons and seasons. I'll talk about reasons today and seasons on the next motivational monday.

She says....
                     "A reason...When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. they are there for the reason you need them to be. Then without wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. the prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on. Next! -When a prayer is answered, there is no need to cry."

Hopefully her words have motivated you to look at those "losses" as blessings and move on with your life. I cant remember where I heard this from but, "A candle does not burn forever."

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Hidden



“Babe come on!!!!! We are going to lose our reservation,” I heard my husband scream from outside through the bathroom window.

“Okay, okay, I’m coming,” I said very softly to myself as if he could hear me.
I checked myself out one last time before I headed downstairs. I had put on this fly red dress that was draped in the front, showing just enough cleavage for all the men to go crazy, and the back wide open that dipped so low that I had to say to myself “Damn, Venice! Now that’s sexy.” I did my makeup real natural as always because Leo hated when I put on too much makeup; he said I was much more beautiful without it. My loosely curled short hair had so much bounce to it, I had to tip my beautician, Kerry twenty dollars; she always does such a nice job with my hair.

After I had sprayed a little Jimmy Choo perfume on my neck and both wrists I slipped my 5 inch heels on, grabbed my purse, turned off all the lights, set the alarm and hurried out to the car.
When I got in the car Leo didn’t say a word to me, didn’t even look at me. I knew he was mad because I’m always late but he knows how I am after 4 years of being together and 3 years of marriage, so I didn’t pay him no mind, I just kissed him on the cheek as he backed out of the driveway.

“Did you call the kids?” he finally said as we merged onto the expressway.

“Aw shoot! No, I’m about to call them now.”
 That’s ‘cause your ass was too busy fantasizing about yourself in the damn mirror,” he mumbled.
He knows me way too well, “whatcha say?”
“Nothing, I just said, I love you.”
“Hmmmm mmmmm That’s what I thought, I love you too.”

He winked at me and smiled. He can never stay mad at me too long.
I grabbed my phone out of my purse to call Leo’s mother Ira, who was keeping the kids for us. It rung and rung and rung and then finally went to voicemail.

“You know she goes to bed early, and makes the kids go to bed early too. I told you to call them earlier,” Leo says a little irriated.
“Hello, you have reached the lovely Ira. Sorry I wasn’t able to answer the phone, but I’ll call you back as soon as I can. Byeeeeeee”
I responded, “Hey Ma, I was trying to catch the kids before they went to sleep, but I guess you guys already hit the sheets. Tell them we love them and will talk to them first thing in the morning. Thanks ma, bye.”
“You know I hate when neither one of us talks to Jayda and Jayden before they go to bed when they are away from us.”
“I know, I know hun, I’m sorry. It slipped my mind earlier.”
He just shook his head.

Leo is so sensitive and overprotected when it comes to the twins. He is crazy about them, and the best father a woman could ask for.

Forty five minutes later we were sitting at the same exact table, at the Wilshire Restaurant in Santa Monica, California which is the same place that he proposed to me four years ago.

The Wilshire Restaurant was very elegant and beautiful. That was one of the things I loved about Leo is the fact that he loved to do things and go places that most black men wouldn’t do or go and I must admit he does spoil the mess out of me.

As we finished up our dinner, he reached for the glass of wine, held it up and said, “Venice, baby. I love you. I love you with all my heart. When I met you eight years, I knew that one day I would get the opportunity to be your husband. You have treated me like a king, you have made sacrifices for me that other women probably would have not done, blessed me with two beautiful kids who have changed my life and my world. I just want to tell you, I appreciate you, I love you and will always love you and I look forward to many more anniversaries to come.”
“AWWWWWWWW baby, I love you too.”
Our glasses clinked, and tears began to run down my cheeks. He reached over and wiped them away.
“Ay, Ay, Ay stop all that crying, this ain’t no damn soap opera,” he said laughing.
“You really know how to break up the moment, you know that?” I said beginning to laugh too.
My husband was such a sweetheart, but he was a straight up fool too. But, that’s why I fell in love with his crazy butt in the first place.

Dinner at the Wilshire was only the kick-off to a long romantic weekend together. Because he always wanted things to stay fresh in our relationship every year he would not tell me what else he had planned for our special weekend, but I do know what always follows dinner at Wilshire on anniversary night. That’s how I popped out the twins 9 months later. I was too ready to get home.

When we pulled into the driveway of our 4 bedroom home in Lawndale California, I was about to get out of the car until he grabbed my hand.
“What, Leo?”
“What’s that on your neck?,” he said looking like it was some type of bug on my neck or something disgusting. I started to panic.
“What Leo? What’s on my neck? Get it off get it off!”
“Hold still, woman!”
He held me tightly as he leaned over to the passenger side extremely close, seemingly to examine what was on my neck. He then started sniffing my neck and said, “Is that Jim Choo? Damn that smells good.”
“Boy get off of me. I thought it was something really on me,” I said pushing him off me.
He started laughing as I reached for the door handle.
“Wait, wait boo. I got this.”
He quickly got out of the car and pranced around to the passenger side and opened the door.
“For you madam,” he said in his fancy white person voice holding his hand out.
“You so silly.”
Before I could fully get out the car, over Leo’s shoulder I saw the light on in the kids’ room.
“Babe, did you leave the light on in the kids’ room?”
He turned around, “Naw, I didn’t. You were the last one in the house and I thought you cut off all the lights.”
“I did,” I said slightly confused.

He turned back around towards me to continue to help me get out of the car. As soon as he turned toward me, once again I looked over his shoulder and the light went off.
“Babe, babe. The light went off. The light went off! Someone’s in the house! Someone’s in the house!”

He quickly turned back around and indeed the light had gone off.
“Neicey baby, stay here. Let me go check it out around the back. No, wait, matter of fact head to the neighbors and I’ll be there in a sec.”
My heart began to beat so fast and so hard, “NO!” Come with me to the neighbor’s and we’ll call the police there,” I whispered.
“NO, Niecey. Just head to Joe and Martena’s and I’m just going to go check around the back. Okay. Trust me. Just go.”
When he says “trust me,” I know he is serious. So I quickly ran over to the neighbor’s side door and waited for Leo.

No sooner could I ring the doorbell. I heard two loud gunshots. I froze and stared into the darkness towards where my husband disappeared to.
When I snapped back into my senses, I banged on the door so hard and so fast. I have never banged on a door so hard in my entire life.
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